My Underpants Rule! – review and giveaway

This competition is now closed. Thank you all for your amusing entries and insightful comments. Choosing a winner was tough!

Huge congratulations to Martina Sawallich, the competition winner, based on her ‘little rudder’ comment.

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Things are about to get serious here on the blog. I want to talk to you about child sexual abuse. More importantly, I want you to talk to your children about child sexual abuse. Sounds scary and all a bit awkward, doesn’t it? But ignoring it won’t make it go away. Educating our children about child sexual abuse helps to protect them. My Underpants Rule!, a new book by Kate and Rod Power, is an engaging tool for parents to teach their children about protecting their private parts. It’s a fun book that deals with a serious issue.

The main message of My Underpants Rule! is simply ‘What’s under my pants belongs only to me’. This message is repeated a number of times, using rhymes and kid friendly language. The book then gives a number of scenarios for kids to consider and answer. I loved this part of My Underpants Rule!, not only is the rule set out but it encourages the child to think about how the My Underpants Rule! applies in real life. It ingrains what is appropriate and inappropriate touching and explains what to do in difficult situations.

My Underpants Rule! is a bright and fun book, with lots of primary colours and boys and girls dressed as super heroes. It’s suitable for children aged 3-8+. The charm of My Underpants Rule! is that it empowers children to run, kick and scream and make a big scene if the underpants rule is broken, yet it doesn’t create a sense of panic or alarm. My biggest lad, who is five, remembered the ‘run, kick and scream’ part of the rule after the first reading. He also requested it be read again to him the following night. That certainly made me think the message of My Underpants Rule! was something that kids can easily grasp. Mr Wallace admitted he felt anxious about reading Mr Underpants Rule! to the boys. Once he read it, he felt that My Underpants Rule! gives parents an easy way to talk abut a difficult subject.

my underpants rule - book review
my underpants rule - book review

Finally, protecting or preventing child sexual abuse is not as easy as reading a book to your kids. But if there’s open discussion at home, they’ll feel comfortable and able to talk to you when they need to. If you make sex secretive, it’s pretty easy for a paedophile to convince a child to keep sexual abuse a secret.

A gorgeous female Army medic told me on a plane recently that having son’s meant I didn’t have to have ‘the chat’. I smiled and nodded because I was too flabbegastered to say anything else. Surely in this day and age there is no ‘chat’? Let’s talk about sex and sexuality with our kids often. I’m all about full and frank disclosure. Starting with using the correct names for our children’s body parts, from the day they are born. A great resource on this is Talk soon. Talk often.

I hate to lecture, but the prevention of child sexual abuse is something that is hugely important to me. Not only because I have three sons, but also because it’s the area I currently work in.

Win a copy of My Underpants Rule!

Have I’ve convinced you to educate your child about sexual abuse? Would you like a copy of My Underpants Rule! to help you out? Brilliant! Simply like the Life on Wallace Facebook page (so I can contact the winner) and leave a comment below answering this question:

What’s the most entertaining alternative you’ve heard for penis or vagina?

With thanks to Kate Power for providing me a copy of My Underpants Rule! to review, at my request, and for proving a copy of the book to give away. I have not been paid for this post and these are my own, honest opinions.

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54 thoughts on “My Underpants Rule! – review and giveaway

  1. I admit, I put off even reading this blog post as I just didn’t quite want to think about the topic, but I finally read it tonight and agree, it’s a very worthwhile post. It’s so important to talk to our children about such matters, and it sounds like the book is a great way to introduce the topic. Thanks for the review!

  2. I’ve always been a big advocate for giving the kids correct labels for their genitalia, and even managed to get my husband around to my way of thinking despite his initial reluctance. Great to hear that there are fantastic resources to deal with this very important issue.

  3. Recently at a kids birthday party I heard a 4yo girl yell out ouch my ‘vi jay jay’ hurts!!!! After rough and tumble with her sister. I had to lol. Her mother was dying of embarrassment!! At the moment we talk front & back bottoms as a urethra and anus isn’t quite in my vocabulary. Like the sound of that book – but doesn’t mention the boobies??

    1. No, it doesn’t Jo. But in my professional experience with child sexual abuse, breasts aren’t often the target. I must admit my three year old asked what the hole his poo comes out of is called, I hesitated ever so slightly before I replied ‘anus’. He wasn’t fazed and just said ‘oh, anus’ as if to say ‘oh, book’. No big deal to kids!

  4. Very interesting and thought provoking. All the girls in our family refer to our bits as Mamaizes. Its been passed from generation to generation. This is probably not even the correct spelling. No one has any idea where it comes from, we suspect it’s Welsh, or what it means. We probably don’t want to know!

  5. My son calls his penis a “diddle” and my daughter calls her vagina a “giney”.
    I have always taught the kids that it’s not ok for someone else to touch their private parts, my daughter used to repeat it back instead of saying private parts, she would say her “favourite part”. We’ve finally gotten the words right and we firmly believe we are educating them properly by always making them aware. This book would be a great added way to keep educating them both.

  6. I also agree that it is very important to talk to your children about their private parts at an early stage! I don’t like using other names and tend to teach my 5 year old daughter the correct names. I have always been very honest and upfront with her and when she asks me questions I try my best to tell her the things how they are. Of course we haven’t had “the talk” yet as she is still young but when that moment comes I’ll try to keep having the same approach! Great book and review. 🙂 x

    1. Thanks Franca! I actually think that starting by using the correct terms is the beginning of ‘the talk’ and is very appropriate for a five year old.

  7. This looks like a great book. I hadn’t thought to really teach my three year old but it is so important you have really made me think. Also I need to start using the proper terms for his willy. Is that even a proper term? It’s often referred to as his pee pee or even his winky woo woo! Thanks so much for highlighting such an important topic and thanks for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday

  8. I remember coming home from work when my daughter was about 20 months to her saying “daddy has a penis”. My reaction was “what the hell didyou guys do today??” Apparently she had seen him weeing and looked confused so he had explained to her that he has a penis and she has a vagina. We then spent all of dinner with her asking about each person she knew and what they have! This would be a great book to help us keep talking with our kids. Such a tough subject. Thanks for running the giveaway 🙂

  9. This is such a great idea – it can be such a difficult topic to bring up, even when it’s so important. As for the funniest name… My mum was bathing my baby daughter a few months back and was saying ‘let’s wash your Pindy, Pondy, Pandy’. (Left nipple, right nipple, and vagina.) Apparently it was what she called mine when I was little too. I’d obviously repressed the memories! 🙂 #justanotherlinky

  10. Not the easiest topic to write about but so important. I’m not entering because my kids are out of the age group, and there are parents with kids who will benefit. Thanks for being brave enough to cover this important subject.

  11. It is fantastic that people address these issues in children’s book form. It is something that unfortunately needs to be talked about and no one is immune. We don’t have any “fancy” names in this house. Oh, penis and willy some times get interchanged.

  12. I remember when I was growing up I had a very close girlfriend whose younger brother used to follow us everywhere. We would have only been around 16 and he was annoying my friend. To get rid of him she said “go away or I will tell her all about your little rudder”. Needless to say he dissapeared quickly and didn’t really follow us after that.

  13. It’s just such a difficult topic to raise and much easier to stick your head in the sand but it’s so so important not to do that isn’t it. This is really making me stop and think as my kids get older – it’s a conversation we will be having. Mim x #ParentingPicks

  14. What I like about this book is that it gives children the information they need, without making them scared or anxious about it happening to them or sharing details that they are not yet able to comprehend. My partner calls it a ‘wang’ to my sons. I have always used proper names for things like this but my boys waiver depending on what they hear around the place occasionally. I did have to refer to a chicken ‘pooping’ out her eggs as ‘it comes out her egg hole’, as although the vent is the same ‘hole’, I wanted to broaden their thoughts as to how our bodies work and that different parts of the body do different things by using something that they were already talking about.

  15. We use the correct terms for vagina but my daughter thought it began with a B so we had several weeks of hearing “no Mummy it’s BAGINA!!”.

  16. An issue you know I am very passionate about! Thanks for sharing this book review with us. Body parts are just that – parts of our body we need to understand and be empowered to talk about firmly with others. Correct names are vitally important and help protect our kids from grooming and predatory behaviour. I think the term ‘whistle’ was used for my private parts when I was little!

  17. I love this!
    We have recently toilet trained our 3yo son and he has been very interested in watching all family members go to the toilet. After watching me wee he pointed out that I don’t have a Penis. “No honey, you know mummy doesn’t have a penis. She is a girl and she has a vagina. That also where our baby will come out in a few months”
    He has a good curious look and then excitedly pointed out “mumma!!! It looks just like a Lasagne!!!!” (After pushing his boof head out I’m not surprised!!!! Thought it best not to tell him that…..)
    He has now mashed the 2 words together…. I “love” sharing a public toilet with him and getting feedback for all to hear ” good job mummy! That was a big one! You did a big wee out of your Vagisangne”

    1. I can’t say I’ve ever considered there to be a similarity between a vagina and a lasagne, but you learn something new every day!

  18. Clearly I’m a little slack in the grooming department as my son pointed to me recently and proclaimed that I had a fluffy front bottom. Thanks kid.

    1. Lise, because I have such a strange view of the world I thought you were talking about grooming in a very different sense, rather than the beauty stakes!

  19. This sounds like a fantastic way to tackle an important issue with young children. I have never had any issue explaining to our son that he has a penis but for some reason have struggled with the girl anatomy more. To date we have happily let our daughter refer to her ‘front bottom’. I know this is something I need to change and have been meaning to do some reading on discussing these things with young children.

    I once heard a little boy who was toilet training say to him mum that puffy needed to wee wee. It sounded cute from the little boy and after a query with his mum, she said it was her husbands joke which managed to stick. Puffy = Puff the one eyed dragon!

  20. Thanks for this wonderful review. As a primary teacher who educates students from 10-12 years it is great to see something for the younger students. My children have grown up using the ‘proper’ terms for their parts but I still ahem to laugh when my son calls his penis his best friend.

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