I’m a relaxed kind of parent, mostly. But twins throw up new challenges. One of those challenges is a baby who isn’t gaining weight. It’s not a challenge I’ve faced before. I tend to have chunky boy babies, rolls for days.
I had a hunch Miss R was rather light. The girl’s had their 4 month weigh in and my hunch was right. Miss R, who has always been the smaller twin, hasn’t kept up her weight gain. She weighed 5.53kg, dropping from the 25th to 10th percentile. Miss C was 300g bigger at birth and it’d stayed roughly like that for the first two months. But now the difference is 700g!
I’ll take Miss R back to be weighed in a month. That gives me a month to fatten her up. I’ll be embracing the challenge, but I need Miss R to get on board! I’d love her to gain 400g. It seems like a reasonable amount to me.
I was very grateful that the doctor didn’t directly compare the twins. He really stuck to looking at Miss R’s medical history. I probably compared them much more than he did! There was also no question about me breastfeeding, which was a relief!
To be completely honest, Miss R’s slow weight gain has given my confidence a beating. Both girls are fully breastfeed. Maybe I only have enough milk for one and a half babies? Maybe I should be supplementing Miss R’s feeds with formula? Easier said than done given she won’t take a bottle of expressed breastmilk. Not only that but the best way to build my supply is to keep on boobin.
Miss R is my first good day sleeper, hooray! But that means she doesn’t have as many feeds as her sister. My babies have always cat napped so I’m loathe to wake the baby that actually naps. There’s a theory that babies grow while they sleep. But I tend to be of the view that the more you eat the more you grow!
Miss R is my first baby to take a dummy. That’s been fabulous as it settles her while I deal with the noisier Miss C. I don’t think it’s impacted my supply but maybe she’d be chubbier if she used me as a human dummy, like her four siblings have! Instead of popping the dummy back in when she cries, I’m going to offer her the breast.
The other challenge is that someone, often Miss C, needs attention, and Miss R’s feeds get cut short. I’ve tried ignoring Miss C and letting Miss R feed but she’s distressed by her sister’s crying and often joins in. The best feeds are at night when she’s the only little night owl awake and the house is quiet.
It’s possible I’m overthinking this, but I worry that if I feed Miss R more I’m somehow stealing milk from Miss C. I’m hoping it doesn’t work like that. I’m sure the body knows how to produce the amount of milk required. Supply and demand and all that jazz. But still, what if I fatten one up and the other one’s weight gain slows? See, this twin thing is messing with my usually calm mind!
Lots of mum’s of multiples seem to experience one twin, often twin b, being slower to gain weight and smaller than their twin. I’m reminding myself that they’re two individuals, which means naturally they’ll grow at different rates. Miss R is actually 1cm longer than Miss C. But when you’ve had others babies who’ve been nice and chunky, you question what you’re doing wrong. The flip side is, I know I can breastfeed successfully and I’m not giving up without giving it a red hot go. Of course, Miss R is never going to be huge with her genetics!
We’ll be back to the doctor to weigh Miss R in a month. The twins will be almost six months and soon to start solids. I can’t believe it! In the meantime, hot tips on getting a chubby baby?