The universe has thrown us a massive curve ball. I was tossing around the idea of a fourth child. Four kids seemed like a big, yet manageable number. But five, there’s no way I was ever going there. Boy, I was wrong. Twins make 7! That’s right, my fourth pregnancy is TWINS.
No, I am not joking. I am entirely serious. Who in their right mind would joke about having FIVE kids SIX and under?!?
I did the usual pee on a stick and the positive, very dark, result came back within seconds. Turns out there was a reason for that. While it was a welcome surprise, we’d had three kids, we got this. I booked into the birth centre and got a referral for a dating scan. Other than that, Mr Wallace and I barely spoke about the pregnancy. Don’t get me wrong, we were excited, but life with three boys is busy. Our attention was focused elsewhere.
I rocked off to the dating scan on my own. Mr Wallace was dropping kids off and let’s be frank, there’s not a great deal to see at a dating scan. There was general small talk between the sonographer and I. Then she says the words that I can only describe as LIFE CHANGING. She asks ‘any history of twins in the family’? Simultaneously I say ‘no’ as my eyes dart to the screen in front of me. I’ve no idea what she says next. But even to the untrained eye, I could clearly see two sacs and two little embryos.
I started crying, and asking, probably on repeat ‘are you serious? are you sure?’. I remember the sonographer passing me a box of tissues. Then that mother’s instinct kicked in, and through my sobs I asked her if they babies were ok, whether they were healthy. Two strong heartbeats, all looked great. I was dying to grab my phone and tell Mr Wallace to come back to me. But that wasn’t an option.
Hilariously, the receptionist (who of course had been told it was twins because she had to charge me more money), said ‘twins, congratulations’. Well, that set me off again. I grabbed more tissues as I sobbed, ‘I already have three children’!
This twins make 7 thing is slowly sinking in
My mind is still a buzz with the realities of twins. The practicalities of five kids. We’ll need a new car. People movers are cool, right?!? We may need a new house. It’s almost like becoming new parents again. We’ll need another capsule and cot, and a double pram. Suddenly Mr Wallace and I are chatting about this pregnancy all of the time! Oh, no more going to scans solo either.
Then there’s the more complicated pregnancy and birth. All of a sudden I had to find an OB. There’s the worry about growing two babies and hoping I can carrying them as close as possible to full term. After three natural births, will I need a c-section? After breastfeeding three kids, will I be able to breastfeed twins?
Despite the shock and unknown, twins are exciting. There’s something special about having two babies. I’ve no doubt it’s going to be very hard going. But what an amazing challenge!
We have some news…
We’ve told the boys and it was a beautiful moment. The two oldest boys were laughing and cuddling each other. They were super excited and keep yelling ‘twins’ with delight. The youngest didn’t know what was going on but he was throwing his arms in the air and yelling ‘yay, yay’. At one point the biggest lad counted his brothers and then the two babies and happily declared ‘five kids’. Then he wished it was a school day so he could tell his class mates and teacher. Honestly, it was heartwarming.
It’s been a real blast telling family and friends that we’re pregnant and surprise, it’s twins. It’s like reliving our experience again. People are shocked and in disbelief. We get a lot of ‘are you serious/oh my god/you’re joking’. Followed by happiness and excitement.
I’ve made it through quite possibly the toughest 3 months of my life. I’ve never felt so ‘off’. At the 13 week mark I’m starting to feel marginally improved. I’ve got a bump that rivals the 20 week bump of my first pregnancy. I’m kinda curious to see how big my belly will stretch. The two youngest boys were each 4kg, I was big. I’m guessing this time I’ll be much, much bigger!
If a sonographer ever asks you if there is a history of twins in the family, know this. She is not making polite, idle chit chat. You are about to hear some epic news…
Any advice on twins? Or a big family? Tell me I’ve got this!
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